Today I'm making changes. Well at least today I've got to the point of acknowledging a change that has been developing for a few months, and doing something about it.
But it's not easy!
Up to now, my focus has been to help mid-life women who are feeling stressed, exhausted and overwhelmed with menopause-related symptoms to take back control of their health and wellbeing so they can enjoy life again and embrace their future. And I've been doing this through coaching and education services.
However I have been gradually developing a passion for doTerra essential oils, which are basically a different toolkit for achieving health and wellbeing. They have made a huge difference to me, and I have decided that I want to focus my energies on sharing the message about how they can help with my clients too.
The thing is, I've been dabbling a bit with mentioning essential oils 'on the side'. I've been nervous about saying too much as I didn't want to dilute my previous messages about how I could support my clients. But today I decided to 'come out'. It's been scary!
I have recorded a video to explain to my followers about what I'm doing. There's only been positive feedback from that (so far!).
I've sent an email to my mailing list, offering them to unsubscribe if they're not interested. There's been rather a deluge of 'unsubscribe' notifications. It's not easy to see them come in, but if people aren't interested in my message, then it's time for me and them to let go.
Time will tell about whether it's the right move. I definitely feel quite vulnerable now and unsure about whether I've done the right thing. But I figured that if I don't try, I'll never know.
There's a great quote I have on my Vision Board - "You never cross the ocean unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore". Let's hope I manage to reach the other side, as that will mean that other people are discover the amazing physical and emotional therapeutic benefits of essential oils, and loving them as much as I do.
Mary is a Director of the UK Health Coaches Association, a qualified Health Coach and a doTerra Wellness Advocate. She runs a private Facebook group supporting women struggling with menopausal symptoms, and provides regular training and information sessions on Women's Health. For more information see www.bloomwithmary.co.uk and for future events see www.facebook.com/bloomwithmary/events.
Watch my interview with Sam from Midlife Makeover, who asked me for my top tips for feeling better during the perimenopause and menopause. See what I said about the place of affirmations, gratitude and being in the flow!
As I was struggling to concentrate this morning, I thought it might be helpful to share some tips and advice on brain fog, memory and concentration problems, which are so common during perimenopause and menopause.
Brain fog is usually as a result of unbalanced hormones, typically thyroid*, oestrogen and/or cortistol.
If you're looking for a quick fix, then these might help:
In the longer term, there are a number of key activities or strategies that can help:
If you are really struggling and know you would like to make some changes, and would value some personalised support, please do get in touch for a free, informal and confidential chat - you can book a date directly in to my diary here: https://www.bloomwithmary.co.uk/contact.html.
*Thyroid issues can be easily confused with menopausal symptoms. They include difficulty regulating energy levels, weight problems, sensitivity to cold, mental sluggishness, mood issues, low immunity, perspiration issues, hair loss & throat dryness amongst others. If you are concerned you should ask for a thyroid function test from a qualified medical professional.
**if you're considering using essential oils, use the best quality you can find, which should be guarantee pure therapeutic grade. Also do check with your healthcare professional as even natural treatments can interfere with medication, although essential oils are generally considered extremely safe.
People often ask what I do, as a Health Coach, to keep myself healthy, as I am post-menopausal and slimmer, fitter and healthier than I've ever been.
Starting my day well is a key part of this, so I thought I'd share the details of my morning routine. I am post-menopausal, but I wish I had known about these things when I was suffering from hot flushes, night sweats and low mood during my perimenopausal years, as I now know that many of these nutrients can help substantially with supporting hormonal balance and therefore improving symptoms.
To save you writing notes, here is a summary of what I do:
Also in the picture is matcha tea, which I usually have at some point in the morning as my caffeine fix, and it's packed with antioxidants. Green tea is good but as match is the whole leaf powdered it's even better.
*If you use any essential oils, especially internally, do ensure you use high quality, and if appropriate food grade oils. I use doTerra because they are Guaranteed Pure Therapeutic Grade and I trust them. That's also why I take doTerra supplements.
Mary supports women who are suffering from unwanted menopause-related symptoms, to make natural and lifestyle changes to reduce their symptoms and feel better. For a free, informal chat, you can book a slot directly in to her diary here: www.bloomwithmary.co.uk/contact. She also runs a safe and supportive Facebook group www.facebook.com/groups/bloomingmenopause for all women in their 30's, 40's and 50's who believe in the power of lifestyle and want to learn more about how to feel better through their midlife transition.
I love collaborating with other people supporting women going through the menopause, and Francesca, who is an Image Consultant and Stylist, wrote this great article which I want to share with you:
What should I wear during the menopause? 👗
Has menopause changed the way you dress? It has for many ladies that I know and I wanted to share my top tips what I have learnt! The hot days in the summer can be a real pain when going through menopause so I hope this can help a few ladies ☀️☀️
Style is an individual thing. You just have to figure out what works for you. Our body shape can change around the menopause so you may need to adapt a bit.
If you’ve got a bit of middle-aged spread you might find that looser shapes look better. A slightly loose cotton shirt is fantastic in the summer and I think most women can wear that.
You want to feel comfortable and relaxed so fit is really important!
Fabric is also important – go for natural fabrics such as cotton, linen, silk and cashmere, as they absorb moisture from the skin and help air to circulate around the body better. They’ll help you keep your cool during a flush and tend to hold their shape better.
Master the art of layering
Anything you can waft – or remove – is good for a hot flush!
A scarf in the winter can be pulled off fast or wearing a skirt in the summer can help you feel cool and not so hot!
Put your best foot forward! I don’t think anyone looks glamorous when their feet hurt. Nearly every designer brand now has a range of trainers. Not only are they comfortable but buying a new pair of fashionable trainers is another good way to look current. I also really like sliders, loafers and flats, which are great if you need to look a bit smarter.”
ADD FINAL TOUCHES
Don’t forget to accessorise to complete your outfit, but I wouldn’t necessarily wear a big statement necklace if you’re experiencing hot flushes.
You want to feel free and uncluttered and a heavy necklace can make you feel clammy and sweaty. Go for a pair of statement earrings instead.
Don’t stop at jewellery – why not wear a belt to add colour to your look and pull in looser tops. They are also easy to remove so if you do start to feel uncomfortable you can just whip it off!
Ultimately, wear what makes you look and feel good through the menopause (and cope with the hot flushes it brings).
The thing to remember is that you’re not dressing for your age, you’re dressing for your body shape!
Style doesn’t rely on age and the menopause is a great time to experiment and get creative to figure out what works best for you.
You can find out more about Francesca here: www.imageconsultantmaidenhead.co.uk and about my Menopause Coaching and Support services here: www.bloomwithmary.co.uk
#menopause #imageconsultant #personalstylist
I believe practising mindfulness has helped reduce my menopausal symptoms - watch this short video for more information.
If this resonates with you, do connect with me - www.bloomwithmary.co.uk or my safe & supportive Facebook page www.facebook.com/groups/bloomingmenopause, or book a free mid-life action session directly in to my diary https://www.bloomwithmary.co.uk/work-with-me.html
Find out where you are in your mid-life with my Mid-Life Evaluator here!
If your answer isn't sparkling with positively, do join my safe and supportive Facebook group, or get in touch for some 1-to-1 support here. I can help you regain your sparkle!